Accepting Personal Responsibility

There is something of a victim culture in the 21st Century.  Now, I'm not speaking about the people in power who abuse their authority, privilege, and financial dominance to exploit those "beneath" them; I'm speaking about this concept of perpetual victimhood that we live in, today.

Example One: "Share the Road"

Okay, I'm all about sharing the road with bikers.  Hell, I was in a relationship with one for several years, one whom, I might add, has managed to total not one, but two bikes as a result of reckless drivers.  But, I know him to be a safe driver, on his own.

Basically, he's not an asshole - someone who swerves dangerously in and out of traffic with only a few feet between himself and the cars through which he's weaving, cutting people off, and leaving them only a nanosecond to slam on their brakes and cause a major pileup behind them.

Why should I share the road with someone who drives like that?  Just because that person has a death wish doesn't mean the rest of us do.  It is, in my opinion, our duty to keep the other drivers on the road who are obeying the law and not driving like assholes safe by running them over.

Fuck "sharing the road" with those people.  They're not bikers; they're a public menace.


Example Two: "Girls in Gay Bars"

My favorite argument made, today, was that girls shouldn't be in gay bars, because they're cockblocking the gays from getting with the other gays.

Really?  Most likely, it's the fact that you're a fucking douchebag about it.

Listen, people - we've fought for LGBT rights and equality for over fifty years, all so we could feel safe just being out and alive; so that we could have families, loved ones, and go into any establishment without being made to feel unwanted because of whom we love.

If you're one of those assholes who turns into a bitchy queen whenever women are in gay bars, you either need to shut the fuck up or never again complain when some business or public gathering place decides they don't want you in their establishment.  Ever.  You can't have it both ways - either we're welcome everywhere, or people can discriminate against us.  Your choice.


Example Three: "Guys on Grindr Don't Know Their HIV Status"

According to some study, 1 in 10 guys on Grindr haven't been tested for HIV and still post that they're negative.  People are acting shocked and surprised, and talking about how some guy "POZed" them (conveniently leaving out the fact that they knowingly had bareback sex with them).

You know what?  If you don't want to get shot, don't play with a gun that doesn't have the safety on.

That's not "blaming the victim;" it's telling people to buck the fuck up and accept some fucking responsibility for their own sexual health.

Wake up, people!  It's 2013!  Have we not basically learned over the past thirty-three years that you should always assume that people have some sort of STD unless proven otherwise?

People lie; they cheat; they do intravenous drugs (though new transmissions of HIV via this method are increasingly rare) - if you haven't caught on to the fact that you should wear a goddamned condom, you're an idiot.

If you were raped or drugged or someone purposely damaged a condom in order to spread the disease, you are not at fault in the slightest; if, however, you went out trolling for bareback sex without giving a fuck about your own safety enough to believe someone when they "say" they're positive, you ARE at fault.


I hate to sound like a Republican, but Jesus Christ!  Have some accountability.